Joy in relationships
"One of the deepest pleasures is being truly seen, and loved anyway.
And being seen in a false way---what could be lonelier?"
We all have a persona, (a Jungian term for how we present ourselves to the world). We need this. We can't go around exposed all the time to anyone and everyone.
But with some people, those who are in your inner circle, http://therapiststhoughts.blogspot.com/2009/07/geography-of-your-friendships.html , it is worth revealing your real self. Why? Because this opens the door to emotional intimacy. This is an experience in life that is both exciting and peaceful at the same time. It contains the feeling of true acceptance by the other as well as deep empathy on your own part.Actions such as those below, offered to a loved one, can put us on this path:
If you want to grow in this way, that is, in how close you are in your primary relationship or how deep your friendships are, you can begin considering taking off your mask with certain people. Take note---we must be selective about whom we share with in this way. Try to choose the people you open up to, carefully. You want to share your inner self with others who will honor that, who will see it as a privilege, and who will also be honest with you.
Have you felt either of these---popular for a false self or, conversely, loved for your true inner self? I invite you to share your experience in the comment section.