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Tuesday, December 25, 2012


Some, such as Nelson Rockefeller and Mother Teresa believe that love is the most powerful force there is

"Love is sometimes shown in the things you don't say, don't keep track of, and don't notice.  The greatest kindness is often shown in letting things go.  None of us is perfect, but we can all be perfect friends and perfect partners by allowing those we love to be imperfect."
Neale Donald Walsch

"Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you."
Dr. Wayne Dyer


  1. So what is your take on client's who "love" their therapist?

    1. I should clarify - what is your take on clients who "love" their therapists in a completely non-romantic way?

    2. My take on such a client is that what they are feeling is natural. The client is having an experience with a person who is providing emotional nurturing, a safe place to express feelings and thoughts, and careful attention. That client is responding to what is being offered.

  2. What a brilliant {and comforting} answer to this very familiar question.

    Thanks for sharing this.

  3. I agree with Amanda, very good answer. I can genuinely and sincerely say that I loved the intern I saw for a short time period and the therapist I saw for about a year. It's different than any other kind of love that people experience in real life. The love is 100% real, but at the same time it's idealized and/or transferential because clients only see one side of the therapist and don't really know them personally. It was a very healing experience for me. The love was never expressed verbally or physically, but it was definitely there and I'm grateful for it.

  4. Amanda and Bama Psych-Your comments are appreciated-supportive and additive. Bama: Yes, transference and projection are usually a part of the picture and worthwhile to look into while in therapy.
    The other side of the story is that the therapist, I believe, must be genuine. If they are faking it in some way, it will compromise the relationship. I think that for healing to take place, the therapist must be congruent and real.