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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

From The Outside In

In a wish to grow, to develop, or to change, it is possible to work from the inside out or from the outside in. If we change our behaviors (outer), it effects our feelings (inner). If we change our mind about how we've been viewing something (inner), it will probably change what we do (outer). And, of course, it's possible to put effort in both directions.
Often, just following a new understanding of a conundrum they've been struggling with, a patient will say: "So now, what do I do about it?" They haven't realized yet that change will emerge naturally out of their new perspective. Insight leads to change.
Here's a woman who works from the outside to help people feel better about themselves. She writes: "The essence of authenticity is to live according to your own internal voice...Your appearance can enhance your sense of energy, vitality and vigor." That was written by Deborah Francesconi, R.N, (a former psychiatric nurse, now an aesthetic nurse specialist). In a nutshell, she says here what I have proposed in this entry.
She currently has a very practical list of how to take good care of your skin (for adult women and men too-children's care would be different). Putting a little attention on self-care contributes to our self-esteem. Here is her website:


  1. Hi Paula,
    That was "good stuff."The Outside in or the inside out. Either one is a great place to start!
    Debbie :)

  2. Hi Debbie. You are right. And the important thing is to start, start somewhere. Thanks for the comment!

  3. This is a very true post. It is the basis for CBT and for DBT. DBT focuses on changing behavior and then thoughts, while CBT focuses on thoughts and the behaviors that occur because of them. Change is possible : D!

  4. Hi Sebastian. I like it that you are reading from the beginning of the blog. It's almost a 'dream come true' for me. I am always urging readers to peruse the archived posts because there is so much there!
    It's common to just read the newest post on a blog but, in this case, you would pass up a lot of the value here if you limited yourself to just that. So, glad you're enjoying it and, thanks!