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Tuesday, March 20, 2012

The Attempt and The Effort

Something good that can happen between people
 One of the subtle but lovely experiences that can be had in therapy is seeing another person trying to understand you, being with another person who is focused on you, thinking about you, and trying to empathize.  
Sometimes the therapist will 'get it', sometimes not.  But knowing that someone is paying that level of attention to you and what you are expressing can be an unequaled experience, but---you have to notice it.  That sort of activity can be somewhat quiet.

It isn't only therapists who are capable of giving this sort of attention.  You can do it.  Try giving that level of attentiveness to someone in your life when they are trying to express something.   (It also feels good to do it!)

To love is to give one's time.  We never give the impression that we care when we are in a hurry.
Paul Townier 

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