How You Present Yourself to Others Tells What Kind of Relationships You Will Have
What do you say to others---with your body language, your tone of voice, the way you dress, how you greet someone, what you talk about and all the other aspects that go into how you involve yourself with others?
- If I feel I am no good, I will hesitate to seek out others as friends...I will also tend to repulse overtures to friendship made by others (even subtly), because I feel unworthy.
- Conversely, if I see myself as a growing person, I will take initiative in interpersonal transactions
- If I see myself as weak and needy, I will probably present myself to others as a dependent person (and thus tend to attract co-dependent people).
- If I see myself as riddled with problems and coping poorly, I may expect others to become my helpers.
- If I feel good about my own strengths and resources, then I am free to accept others with no added baggage.
- If I like to be in control, I will probably attract dependent types.
- If I like to be the star, I will draw people who like to stay in the background.
- If I am clear about my values, I will attract like-minded people.
These snippets of how a person may feel about themselves show you how your own self-image can affect who you attract into your life and how those relationships develop. The other person has their own set of personal circumstances, for sure, but it is the interaction of the two that creates the relationship for good or for ill.
Maybe they can start you thinking about yourself and what you bring to your relationships. Might be interesting!
How do you see yourself? What do you bring to the table?