tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post8545944361789266204..comments2024-03-05T10:22:51.456-08:00Comments on A Therapist's Thoughts: One Door Closes, Another OpensPaula Younghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-3995519721820280892013-05-14T12:36:58.041-07:002013-05-14T12:36:58.041-07:00I am not looking for to the day when I have to say...I am not looking for to the day when I have to say goodbye. I have had six therapists in the past and each has been beneficial in some way, but I haven't allowed myself to get emotionally intimate with them. With my current therapist, in the DBT setting I am very intimate with her. I know it will hurt like a freight train when saying goodbye and I know that I will be able to deal with it and be forever grateful for her help in my life. I would want to have a final goodbye session no matter how awkward it is. Thanks for the post. It made me feel sad, but in a good way : D. <br /><br />Loss is part of life, which means you should try to enjoy every moment.<br /><br />www.findingonespath.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15709146875050298322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-42358000872156087492012-12-13T11:34:30.082-08:002012-12-13T11:34:30.082-08:00Anony. It's a coincidence that this actually ...Anony. It's a coincidence that this actually also happened to me once. A chance to learn something about how to say good-bye. The good part is that it is a loving ending. When it happened to me, I designed a good-bye ritual: I brought a tea party to her office for she and I at our last session. It was a nice closure. (I will never forget her though)Paula Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-92049012938134706702012-12-13T06:56:56.742-08:002012-12-13T06:56:56.742-08:00My therapist is moving to another city next week. ...My therapist is moving to another city next week. I have to say goodbye to her next Wednesday. Although I've already found a replacement I am profoundly sad. I didn't think it would hit me as hard as it has. I'm going to have to write a note to her. I'll never be able to say what I have to say without going to pieces and I don't want that to be her lasting image of me. Thank you for letting me know it's okay to write her a thank you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-54906749975011266132012-11-23T10:22:40.559-08:002012-11-23T10:22:40.559-08:00Yes, Anonymous, it is sometimes the therapist'...Yes, Anonymous, it is sometimes the therapist's own fault when thing go wrong. <br />Paula Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-15719608235034888602012-11-23T00:13:10.505-08:002012-11-23T00:13:10.505-08:00I was tired of my therapist's saracasm and lac...I was tired of my therapist's saracasm and lack of respect. On my last visit, I got p 5 minutes in, as she daydreamed and had that stupid look she had as she gazed down. I got up, all she said was 'do you want your money back?' I offered to come back the following week to re-cap everything, after 2 years of therapy. Then I called a day later wanting my money back and never wanted to look at her selfish face again. This happens too, sometimes the therapist is selfish, lazy, tired and irresponsible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-62861690354647916862012-08-03T18:30:33.827-07:002012-08-03T18:30:33.827-07:00Caz---excellent point and, a good suggestion.Caz---excellent point and, a good suggestion.Paula Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-81237321998330319312012-08-03T17:40:07.631-07:002012-08-03T17:40:07.631-07:00Lately I read a lot of people are writing a goodby...Lately I read a lot of people are writing a goodbye letter not as the only means of saying goodbye but as something they can write and hand to their therapist as part of a closing session; a way to get down what they want to say when they know emotion will overtake them and prevent them from saying what they need in those final moments. Makes a lot of sense in that respectCaznoreply@blogger.com