tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post5650832413401182548..comments2024-03-05T10:22:51.456-08:00Comments on A Therapist's Thoughts: Making MistakesPaula Younghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-54695407313240419732012-11-01T14:10:26.769-07:002012-11-01T14:10:26.769-07:00Thanks for the suggestion and for replying!
Thanks for the suggestion and for replying!<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-14217363874591505072012-10-31T13:54:39.590-07:002012-10-31T13:54:39.590-07:00Dear Anonymous,your 1st paragraph--a good expansio...Dear Anonymous,your 1st paragraph--a good expansion on the post-thank you. <br />The part about feeling hurt---it's almost always hard to talk those things out because we feel so vulnerable doing it. But, there should be at least some sense of safety in your therapy relationship; if so, this would be a good place to try this out. Maybe introduce the topic by telling your therapist you have something to discuss that is hard for you to bring up. That might be a starting place or,even,a discussion in and of itself. Paula Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-21404847459755802592012-10-31T04:48:28.534-07:002012-10-31T04:48:28.534-07:00We do have a good, stable, healthy relationship. ...We do have a good, stable, healthy relationship. The issue was resolved in the least possible time, and we were able to move on rather quickly. Forgiveness was the key for me, and also being able to see/accept her mistake(s) instead of idealizing her into this perfect god-like figure.Bama Psychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00210909904295078362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-66917515685294780932012-10-30T12:04:00.108-07:002012-10-30T12:04:00.108-07:00A suggestion that isn't accurate is not a mist...A suggestion that isn't accurate is not a mistake to me, that's just dialogue and an attempt to arrive at a deeper understanding.<br /><br />To me, a mistake is something that damages trust or shows that I don't really matter to the therapist when all is said and done. My therapist canceled an appointment the day of and then didn't bother to follow up to reschedule until I asked twice. I called this out and received an email apology. I'm still hurt but I try to hide it. In the therapist's defense, I never admitted how hurt I was and the excuse was about being busy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-81710346143164752862012-10-30T10:45:28.572-07:002012-10-30T10:45:28.572-07:00Oh, Amy, I am really sorry to hear that this happe...Oh, Amy, I am really sorry to hear that this happened. And, I do understand how that feels and believe you about the emotional scar. What I do find in what you wrote is that the overall relationship you 2 have is good. That is fortunate. <br />The nurturing relationship that you have can encompass and keep in some perspective the hurt that happened.<br />Your therapist sounds like she's ethical and caring, being ready to accept her mistake and hang in there, doing her best to resolve it with you.Paula Younghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984514496301424402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5358181067760673073.post-21865861211795273282012-10-30T04:05:51.313-07:002012-10-30T04:05:51.313-07:00I've been in therapy for about 13 months now. ...I've been in therapy for about 13 months now. At first, my appointments were weekly. Now, they are monthly or just for "tune-ups." The best thing about when my therapist makes a mistake is that she is more than willing to "be human/real" and admit her shortcomings if she is indeed wrong or makes a mistake. Luckily, this has only happened one time that was a huge deal. Maybe 1-2 more little goofs have happened along the way, but nothing major like the other one. The big mistake was so retraumatizing to me, and unfortunately it's something that will likely have a lasting impression even though it's worked out; the wound is gone, but the scar is still there as a reminder.<br /><br />AmyBama Psychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00210909904295078362noreply@blogger.com